Freeing Ourselves from Constraints

Women often grapple with the constant drive to be productive—juggling work, fitness, and preparation for the next day. This pressure can make it difficult to pause and reflect, leading many to adopt perfectionist behaviors. Studies indicate that women are more prone to perfectionism compared to men.

In her latest book, On Our Best Behavior: The Seven Deadly Sins and the Price Women Pay to be Good, Elise Loehnen explores the societal expectations that can hold women back. She discusses how we can release the burden of being the 'ideal' daughter, partner, or investor.

In 2019, Elise faced overwhelming career pressures that led to a month-long struggle with hyperventilation. She initially believed she could achieve a sense of security in her career, only to realize that the pressure was intensifying. Recognizing this, she stated, “I can’t outrun this. It’s getting worse, and I need to confront what’s weighing me down.”

Elise shares her journey to manage stress and potentially save her life. While writing her book, she recognized the immense pressure women feel to maintain a 'good' reputation. She explains, “The worst thing you can do to a woman is damage her reputation or label her unkind or a bad mother.” By identifying the seven deadly sins—sloth, envy, pride, greed, gluttony, lust, and anger—women can reclaim their narratives.

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Take sloth, for instance: We can challenge the compulsion to always be busy. By tuning into our bodies and practicing presence, we can break free from the cycle of constant activity that suppresses our true feelings.

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